NOAH AOC

Hey. =] Yea, those are definately the best guys to keep around. The ones that are willing to accept you and work with you. Those are definately teh best friends. Most of my friends forget all the time. It hurts actually... because I've known them for so long. I guess we're only human though. A guy I dated though, did really seem to try hard to help me out a lot. =] I loved it. He didn't make me feel needy or like I needed him. He was just... sweet about it I guess. Needless to say.. I am a bit sorry that relationship didn't work out.

=] Keep those friends close. I have 1 or 2. I love them soooooo very much.

Well, I've got a guy friend. He's not albino.. but he's also been through some struggles. Don't just think she has to have albinism to understand you though. =] Everyone has struggles. I've dated some fairly nice normal sighted guys... I'll admit.. they may have been a bit different.. but they tried very hard to understand... Ok.. maybe that was just one guy. =]

I personally have a fear of telling guys that I have albinims.. or mainly that my eyesite is horrible... I'm so afriad they'll look at me differently.. or not want to be around someone who needs help all the time. Honestly, if they don't want to be with you just because of that.. they're not worth your time.

But.. I get the whole understanding thing. I'm here for you to talk to. =] I don't know but about 1 albino personally....

So.. keep in touch. =]

Danielle

I did have a girlfriend. Her name was Tiffany. We both had our good and or bad times, and sad to say that eventually we hit a fork in the relationship after two years. I always hate to admit that I have albinism to people, but I love to say I'm the "albinomexi" and respect that. Tiffany dated me, FOR ME. Be yourself. I never told Tiffany about my vision, but I bet she can tell by the way I looked at things. It's not that I'm sad to say that I have it. Just be yourself, don't hide, it's better, and I guarantee that you'll find someone out there

 I haven't had that many problems getting a date. Occasionally I do get depressed here and there for no real reason and wish I had someone but I've always held my head up high. I've had to fight my way through life and have developed quite the mental punch. I always thought my slight depression was just because I expected a lot from myself, I never thought about it being related to my condition. Come to think about it, my complicated, head-strong attitude that I developed in middle school was probably my way of overcoming many mental barriers.

I'm not here to moap about the lack of a girlfriend, I'm here to ask a question / statement.
I find myself extremely attracted to girls that have characteristics resembling albinism. From a serious point of view, in my perfect world I'd like to find someone with albinism, that’s what I'm attracted to. Which is somewhat strange, why look for someone with a disability? (I wouldn't call it that but it is) Perhaps from an evolutionary standpoint we're fighting to keep this condition around, indirectly of course. My question is whether or not other people with albinism find white skin / white hair attractive.

I also have the problem of feeling like I’m the only one and that the chances of finding someone like me are, well… up there but I guess that’s to be expected.

-Cody

Well, even though I don't have albinism, I can try to answer that. (:

First of all, I know I'm not really an accurate source, but I don't really consider albinism a disability... other than the fact that it impairs most people's ability to drive. I've been researching like a crazy person and my boyfriend of nearly 8 months has occulocutaneous albinism, and, other than not being able to read tiny text or fast food menus and getting headaches and the sensitivity to light, he functions just fine. Perhaps I should say that I don't consider it a disability for him, primarily because I don't think <i>he</i> does.

Forgive me for disagreeing with your evolutionary standpoint theory, but I do. Whatever you find attractive, you find attractive. As I said before, I'm not affected with any sort of albinism, but I find it absolutely beautiful. The only person with albinism that I know would be my boyfriend, and I just think it's ridiculously stunning. Marble skin, crystalline blue eyes, and, of course, the hair. (: Everyone seems to like the hair. (: But yeah, my point is, I really genuinely appreciate his albinism. And, yes, it's incredibly superficial. I am in no way saying that I'm not superficial, because I am. It's just that the paleness is very attractive to me, as opposed to it being somewhat of a turnoff.

It's not just you, or other people with albinism who find it attractive.

I hope all of that made sense. (: 

 I am slighly confused by your post. I have heard of people liking the way albinism looks, but your not dating your boyfriend because of his albinism are you? I don't think you are, but it just made me curious..... You seem to like it more than i have heard. It's also hard for me to think of liking it, because i have been ridiculed for it....so.......

 I have had very little dating experience. I had a boyfriend, but he was made fun of for dating an "albino" and it made me feel terrible. the lack of dating is not because of my albinism, but like everyone else has said, my personality. I am crazy outgoing, or extremely shy....so i wouldn't know really if i am questioning something entirely stupid, or something that might be true to some people.

-Kira 

You know I could have swore that I deleted that post. O well.

When it comes to dating physical appearance doesn't mean that much. Well tell that to the rest of the world, I know. However if a person has a problem with how I or any "albino" looks then there not on the potential date list anyway.

It's a racial thing, a black guy doesn't go looking for a racist white girl.

As far as being made fun of, please realize something that took me 15 years to realize: the world is full of complete morons. I / we / have nerve conditions that force us to use our brains more, constantly. Because of this most of us are much smarter then the average Joe regardless of the fact that we are at a disadvantage.

Everything will fall into place, how, when, where is the question. -Smith

 As I read through this thread there is a lot of good advice all around, so I will throw in my $.02 and then be gone. 

 For the most part, my expirances with dating have been for the most part positive. By this I mean I have never had really any trouble attracting girls, but some of the ones I have attracted have been a little wierd. Personally I am very outgoing. If I am in a room full of people I don't know I try to go up to someone and make small talk, or listen into conversations and try to find a point I know about so I can jump in with those people. Things like dressing well, looking nice, having 1337 sKi11z etc really aren't as important as you might think. A little self confidence and a good pickup line, or the perfect situation can work wonders. A friend once told me, "As a freshmen you have to party like a senior." He happened to be referring to college, but I took that to heart starting in highschool. Having a huge network of friends leads to finding dates really easilly because if you can't find a way to introduce yourself to that girl/guy that you like I'll bet one of your firends knows him/her and can make an introduction happen. 

My current girlfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months now, and it has been by far the best almost 6 months of my life. Assuming things keep going this well, this is the girl I plan to marry.

 I may have had an "advantage" in some cases, as I like to think that I'm good looking, I'm extreemly good with computers, I snowboard rather well, I longboard decently, and I can make a mean Long Island Ice Tea, or Cosmo, not to meantion my huge network of friends. So introductions were never a problem for me, but just remember an "advantage" is whatever you make of it.

 

Me and my girlfriend Emma.

I don't really want to rant so I will cut myself off here, but I am positive that everyone here has the ability to attract the guy/gal they are after, they may just need to work on their "game"

 

Cheers

I understand the depression... I feel the same way from time to time. I just accept it for what it is... momentary weakness. =] I've only personally met one other albino person... and he wasn't the friendliest person.. Maybe he was just nervous. Anyhoo... Yea, sometimes it is undoubtably a disability, but what can you do but deal with the hand you've been dealt. I'm a very strong believer in God, and I believe that He wouldn't send us into anything we couldnt handle. I think He has a plan for my life and I'm ready for it.

 I am a bit nervous about heading off to college for sure though. =]

Dating has been ok for me. I'm currently thinking of asking this guy out. He knows I'm albino and am legally blind. No big. =] I hope it goes well.

Plus.. If anyone reading this ever feels alone, you should know thatthere are plenty of people to talk to. You can call me anytime you want. =] I love to meet new people and who better to call than another albino. Im here for you guys.

Call or text if you need a friend.
E-mail me and I'll give you my number. =]
Danigurl343@yahoo.com

Bye guys. =] Have a good day.

-Danielle

I have a different take on that.

I'm atheist. I'm a programmer, logic driven in nature. I say if my hand doesn't have the card I need then how can I build a new card?

But thanks for the advice. On this note, I found something very... interesting. That's all I can say as I don't have any facts but you all should check this out:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wNrOwjNCpzk

Smartkid:

I have a different take on that.

I'm atheist. I'm a programmer, logic driven in nature. I say if my hand doesn't have the card I need then how can I build a new card?

I can't say I'm an atheist, however I do question faith etc. This really isn't an issue at all. Unless you harp on it, and find it necessary to tell everyone you meet that you are one, I'm willing to bet in like the first month religion isn't going to come up.

As for being a programmer. I'm a network admin. When I first met my current girlfriend I was spending about 30 hours a week in a server farm, and spending every moment when not with her working on my own web projects and servers. Its not a card you play up front, but once you have made that initial contact you figure out where to slip it in, and to be honest most girls think its really cool. If you know java or HTML and script them really cool for their myspace, or show them some of the programs you have written. Even girls who don't like technology think that stuff is really cool.

If all else fails, come to RIT, or any other tech school. Its hard not to find a girl here because they think the geek is "sexy." Some girls like blonds, some like muscles, some like a guy who is fluent in C++ and able to crack 128bit WEP.

I will leave you with a story of something that happened to me last summer. I was sitting in an airport waiting for a flight that just shows how being a geek can produce an introduction. I was working on my laptop next to this girl who was complaining to her mother how she was bored and pissed that her laptop was broken. I asked what was wrong, and asked if I could take a look. Turned out she had a corrupted master boot record. So I whipped out my windows CD, pulled up the recovery terminal, fixmbr -y and TA-DA it booted up. I then did some cleaning in her OS and handed the laptop back to her. She was so happy that she had her laptop back, and it was running so much faster then before. We then talked on the plane all 4 hours to florida, and I ended up getting her phone number.

So like I said everyone has at least one card to play.

Cheers
Cameron

"Some girls like blonds, some like muscles, some like a guy who is fluent in C++ and able to crack 128bit WEP."

Thats funny, really funny!

Anyway, I do not make a big deal about religion, it's everyone's choice to believe whatever they want and I could care less about others beliefs. I'm currently getting to know a girl that aspires to be a game developer, and guess what? I run a game development group... www.Colony105.com

 

Things are going all right, we'll see where this goes. If not, well UCF should have someone for me.

 

-Smith

i am 19 yrs old and not been able to make any girlfriend till now

i am very shy in front of girls and frankly speaking , i avoid myself to indulge in relationships..i dont know why..maube due to my weak eyesite.

 

the one thing that really annoys me that -friends of girl keep on teasing her for dating albino..

i dont hav any gf yet but can saythis as i heard girls talking *** abt me.

 

once i was sitting with my friends including girls. i got in some kind of arguement with  a girl and sfter arguement, she said slightly "blind, cant see anything" which i heard and ignored..other girls just laughed.

 i dont know why she said this..the arguement was on topic of party and was not related with my vision by any means.

 

thease kind of incidents happen many times in my life which results that now i avoid girls and afraid that they will comment on me

most of times when someone said *** about my vision, i use to respond in abusive language as i am frustrated ..due to my vision. i also reapond back in abusive way to girls when they comment on my vision

 

pls suggest me guys 

coments r welcomed

Hi Eddie 91 whats up my name is Mia im 12 years old i saw your message comment i no it might sond silly coming from a 12 year old but heres some advis you said that youll never find a girl for you right?! well i knowe that you will even if you dont beleve me now but just wait youll see!  look somewear in the world theirs a girl out their for you youll just have to wait and seell find you   DONT   WORRY!  Hoped i helped just a little bit.    PS dont think your Albinism makes you look ugly it makes you look beautiful trust me i have had my sare of troubles with my Albinism just stay strong      MIA      PPS surry if this is too long beleave me my finger and my eyes are sore but just one more thing my E MAIL ADRESS IS  miaandb@hotmail.com    oh i almost forgot literally     SAY  NO  TO  DRUGS         L O  L    !!!!