NOAH AOC

I am a caucasian with albinism, and i have actually had more acceptance among "minority" races in dating than in my own race...i dont think race or ethnicity matter at all...i am more concerned about the content of a person's character than anything.  My husband is "mixed" but he looks white...i think it would be the greatest thing to have a more "african-looking" child one day.  My husband and i plan to adopt as well from other parts of the world...we havent decided, but i would love to adopt from africa or india.  I think skin is beautiful in all shades, and i am constantly fascinated by how different everyone in the world is, yet how similar we all are.

I would like to say that one day when i have my own children they will be born into a better world than i was regarding discrimination and racism, but honestly it seems to grow worse, and races/ethnicities seem to be more prejudice now than when i was a child.

All of my life i have fit in with the asians hispanics, and blacks in my community because in a small predominately white community they were minorities...and i was also. 

I dont get how some people in this world believe that the color of your skin makes you "different".......this goes with all races though....my best friend was black, and she HATED white people as a whole, until we became friends...her parents did not like me, or they would say rude comments to my face, or call me casper or "hitler's poster child".....but eventually they like me.....i dont know where some people get such hatred and prejudice in thier minds.

 Last anatomy course i took i learned we are all the same underneath the skin,..so why does one organ change so many things in one person's perception  of another?

 

Well, I do think dating posses difficulties without adding the close mindedness of those who like to love'em and leave'em. Personalities and appearance fuel attraction, but not nearly as much as proximity. The ability to chose a mate may be based on a combination of the three. Building on commonalities and differences drive longevity through communication and the ability to learn from one another, without those things the flame can burn out fast. "Stick with your own Kind...", Others with albinism, African Americans, women...., what was that person thinking? I know people who have done all of the above and still no, haps! So, I think they just wanted to say something out of habit... Limiting your dating pool definitely is NOT the answer to what you are going through, but actually broadening it may be. Overall, just taking some time to enjoy the relationship while its blossoming is what I had to do! I was always questioning things, until I had missed the moment. As a result men probably lost interest, but if you just try to enjoy getting to know the person possibly the relationship can grow into something special all by itself. Remember it takes two willing participants and there are no protocols! Visit these links: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/albinism_alliance_group http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BlondeBlackCutiesAcrosstheGlobe/ Sincerely

We, with albinison, will encounter many of the same issues that others do when dating.  The bottom line is, you are who you are and your partner must accept you for that.  I, too, am a divorced parent of two.  There are some men who would choose  not to engage me for that reason - or there could be a million and one other reasons.  If someone suggested you stick with your own kind, you know "right away" that she would NOT be your kind. As with any relationship, you are likely to kiss a few frogs before you find the one that is right for you.

my name is tiffany im 15,african-american and im not an albino and i don't have a problem dating albino men. it just matter about what in the inside!!! God bless!!

aww! yes there is trust me you will find that special person!!!! sorry for not introducing myself but my name is tiffany!!

HEY JUST KEEP YOUR HEADS UP. IM SURE WE ALL ARE THE SAME. BUT TO THEM WE ARE DIFFERENT BECAUSE OF THE WAY WE LOOK.  RATHER IT TIS SKIN EYES OR JUST MAINLY OUR APPEARANCE. BUT LIFE IS HARD BEING ALBINO. IM COLORED. BUT IT DOESNT MATTER. IM ME.

,Re: DATING,So baby girl what you think about me i am albino 19 years, ?? Just kidding, actually the people who diffrencate human beings on basis of skin should be know that although the skins are diffrent but creator is one god. I really feel bad when some one take dessicons on basis of skin colour .,, Post

,Re: DATING,So baby girl what you think about me i am albino 19 years, ?? Just kidding, actually the people who diffrencate human beings on basis of skin should be know that although the skins are diffrent but creator is one god. I really feel bad when some one take dessicons on basis of skin colour .,, Post

 I am a complicated dater. First of all I am bi. Second of all I am picky and third of all I am nonmonogamus.  Yet with all those stipulations, I do ok. 

I am more alone than not and I do believe albinism has something to do with it as well but I figure that is part of it all.  

Well now ok, where do i start.

My situation is different to most who have contributed to this post. One thing i have in common is that i am an albino. but i am from africa and if you think you have a tough time dating in the states or other western countries, you will thank your lucky stars once i am thought telling my tragic life story - LOL.

 Ok it not as bad as i could be i don'tlive in east africa where the ritual killings are ocurring but scared non the less it will spread down to southern africa where i live.

 

My family is black so basically i stick out like a sore thumb like most african albinos, even though people are not openly superstitious and or hateful it more of a silent form, there seens to be no self respecting black man who would consider dating me, its just not done in our culture. most men i even attempt to talk to just being friendly will always cut me short and give an excuse to end the conversation - looking around to see if anyone saw them talking to me.

when i was a teenager, i just thought it was because boys where immature and didn't want to be ridiculed by their friends for being seen with an albino. so most of them just ignored me, so i waited till i got older. i hung out with the popular girls at school ( i guess i was that one ugly friend in the group, even though i was prettier then most of them, they just had the pleasure of having pigmintation), so that made it even harder for me because they were always surrounded by the boys, going on dates talking about their boyfriends.

 

so i finished high school, never having had a boyfriend, i had been kissed once or twice but usually by someone in a drunken haze. then i went off to university in , south africa. i was this as a new start for me a chance to reinvent myself into a confident, gogetting wonam. nothing changed men still would not look me in the eye, approach me or look twice at me, dispite my efforts to be more aproachable. 

then i finished university and went back to my home country. well basically the men that approach me are usually those whe are looking for a quick lay, ablino woman are said to be more easy, because men don't want relationships with them. oh and they will never be professional men, mostly lower income men (unfortunatelty, class system rules here, so forgive me for seening judgemental, kinda hypocritical i know, but it is not easy to explain, you would have to have lived in africa to understand the differences). 

so here i am almost 29, educated from a good family, albino woman who has never had a boyfriend, a date, and is still a virgin. i don't think this will ever change for me as long as i stay here. all my friends are getting married and having kids - not always in that order - and i feel so stuck and alone, they don't understand my lonelyness, they just think i am too picky with men ( if that makes them feel better then so be it, a great bunch of friends i have huh).

well that is me for now, i guess i just needed to rant......   

 

 

Lebo,

I grew up in Nigeria before moving to Canada a few years ago. I think I know exactly what and how you mean. Do hang in there and pray. Prayer and faith has worked for me on this issue. I know it might be easier if you emigrated to a more human rights-practicing country like Canada but from my personal experience, the improvement is not as much as you might think.

Do hang in there because life could be worse -

God bless

Aikay

Lebo,

Why is it more difficult for albino women in Africa to marry than it is for men?

I can't really speak for other African countrys, but in my country, there is no open cultural practises that i am aware of that albinos are not to be married or dated or shunned or anything like that. I think it is more like a fear of the unknown and things that are different from the norn. There are superstitions about albinos in my country (not too sure about what they are exactly - i was very sheltered as a child) but nothing that would insite any violence against us, more like just wanting to stay away and not get to close physically or emotionally.

On marriage, people wouldn't want to bring that kind of imperfection/disability into their familiies and by marrying an albino, you would be doing exactly that. In my culture as in most african cultures you are not only marrying your spouse but their family as well. the family as a whole would be affected by someones decision to marry an albino, and the family may be looked down apon by the community in which they live.  

I don't think it is any different for men than women, just the same.  

  

 Thanks Aikay, Its nice to hear from pple who understand

Hey Lebo,

I have always wanted to visit Cape Town.  Have you spent any time there?  Have you ever thought of having your sister or girlfriend introduce you to a man?  what types of clothes do you like to wear?