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Me - My son is 18, cute, funny, kind and smart, we were always concerned he would not be able to drive - he can. High school has been a negative experience for him -we look ahead to college. He has a small group of good friends. Son - Feels bad about who he is, to pale, can't tan, no girlfriend, not happy, hates his life, not interested in this website Me- Broken hearted Any words of wisdom?, 6/14/08

Hi my name is Anna I am 18 as well and I have OCA and I can honestly say I have been where hes at. Its hard to be 18 and to have never been in a relationship because people judge you by what you look like before they try to get to know you. However I have found that the more confidence I have in myself and the more I just play my condition off I guess you could say the less other people make a big deal of it. For the longest time I was extremely shy and had little to no self confidence and ow even though I still struggle with this issue I am more open with people and just act as though Im no different and suprisingly no one treats me any different in fact most of my friends tend to not know that I have any kind of visual impairemtn til i actually tell them. As far as the tanning and pale thing go I just play it off as a joke and most people just go with it. There is always gonna be someone out there to put others down no matter what you look like or if you have albinsim or not but there isnt always going to be someone out there to make you feel good about yourself so you have to do that for yourself. I would just encourage him to have confidence in himself and not focus on other people because if he is lookign for someon to spend his life with very few women are gonna want someone who doesnt liek themselves. Hope this helped at least a little bit.

God Bless

Anna 18

I remember that time in my life all too well.  I think what got me through it was being involved in sports at school.  Less ostracism and more acceptance since  I "seemed" to fit in despite my uniqueness.  Having a close-knit circle of friends will do him good as well. 

 

My most exciting years started after high school and in college years where people are generally more tolerant since they are there by choice, unlike high school where you get the whole mix, with some not wanting to be there.  Even if he does not continue his education, he will find that a lot more people are accepting than not of his uniqueness in the real world.

 

If he finds something he enjoys doing and shares that with others, tell him I guarantee that he will get the attention of someone from the opposite gender.

 

Let him know that this too shall pass.  It will be a distant memory, which made him who he is but not defines who he will become.

  

thanks for your feedback, my son was "half listening" as I read it, those are great words, "this to shall pass" and happily he will be attending college in the fall. Wishing you much joy. cindy

It also helps alot to just be apart of groups like NOAH where people have been through the same stuff and can relate. there is also a group on yahoo called albinism international that is amazing I absolutely love the people on there they are like my second family and they are incredibly supportive and helpful. Its just nice to know your not the only one. Will yall be attending the confrence this year?

God bless

Anna 18

HI

ME ALSO EXPERIENCING SAME KIND OF SITUATION.

I AM 18 AND I AM FROM INDIA.

PREVIOUSLY, HAVING A GIRLFRIEND is big issue for me But Now i dont want to have girlfriend

I want to keep myself away from girlfriend and relationship stuff but I WANT TO MAKE GOOD FRIENDS AND I HAVE GOOD FRIENDS.

i have both male and female friends.

now i have stopped thinking about girlfriends and my low vision.i think that my girlfriend will come in my life when it has to come

totally stopped thinking about gf

 

i am businessman and io am interested too much in business

that also helped me to stop thinking abt relationships because for me, business is 1st priority

 

i think that the age period of 16- 20 years of an albino person is that period in which he/she thinks maximum abt his albinism .

I ALSO used to think about thease things like...HOW WILL I DRIVE WITH MY GF, HOW WILL I TAKE MY GF TO HOT PLACES AS DRIVING IS A ISSUE

how will i see gf from some distance, i alaways used to afraid of that girls will come to know abt my low vision..

i used to thought that i will never able to make gf as girls wants perfect boys etc etc

but to hell with all that stuff now

Atin