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Dear Friends..

I am Kiran 32 , male from India ( Non Albino) 

I met Smitha about 3 months ago and she is very fine human being and she is an albino. I like her and feel that we will be happy together.

My family and friends are not keen and are really against it. I have never interacted with Albinos before and dont know what are the social issues that will crop up in our life.

Indians are a conservative lot and may not be accomodative to her.

I am in two minds... Can some one help me make up my mind.

She has good sight and I love kids and may want a few in future.

Cheers

Kiran 

Hello!

You are your own person!  If you love her marry her!!  Your kids will not have albinism unless you have the albinism trait as well.  It is a very rare genetic condition.  Who care what your family thinks.  They will not be around to hold you when you are old and gray!  You two will makes friends and that can be your support group if your family will not be.  Good luck! ALWAYS DO THE RIGHT THING!!!!

IF YOU LOVE HER MARRY HER!!!!!

Jill

 Yes, there will be social challenges, as you have already seen in your family. And it probably will be worse in that culture than for a Caucasian American like myself. But it's not the end of the world. IF you love her enough to faithfully share that burden with her and stand up for her, then yes, marry her. She will need your support. She does NOT need a husband who will resent or blame her for any hardship that may come with her albinism.

If you do NOT carry a gene for the same kind of albinism that she has, your children will all be "carriers" (able to pass on the gene to their children), but they will not be affected by albinism. If you DO carry the gene for the same kind of albinism that she has, each of your children has a 50% chance of being born with the condidtion (and all will be carriers, getting the gene from her). About one in 100 people carries an albinism gene. About one in 17,000-20,000 has the condition.

 If you are looking for the "perfect" wife and perfect life, you should probably keep looking. If she is good enough for you "as is," if all the good qualities that make you love her are what's important to you, then who cares what anyone else thinks?

The fact that you even have to ask this question compels me to answer NO!  If you truely love her then you would marry her no questions asked.  There are difficulties with every marriage, whether it be from society, or family, or economic reasons.  You need to re-evaluate your relationship and ask yourself if you love her enough to go through anything with her.  She is just a being of this planet like you and me.  The fact that she has a genetic condition should play no part in whether or not you should marry her.  When you marry someone, you should be in it for the good and the bad.

Actually Brian, I like your response! If one is that concerned, I think it's a huge red flag.

If you've spent that much time with her - enough to consider marriage, you should have an idea of what life would be like. She has good vision as you mentioned, she has lighter skin. It doesn' t sound like there is much to be concerned about. As others have mentioned, unless you happen to carry the same gene, your children would not have albinism.

If you're asking if you should marry her because she has albinism, that concerns me. Just my two cents. I guess it's 4 cents now, because I concur with Brian. ;)

I believe you have only thought about how such a marriage would effect you, it is her that I am concerned about! It is difficult at best if your parents don't care for her, with you on the fence, I must also agree with Brian!! He is a wise man who's advice you should heed!!